When you notice that your mind is caught up in longing and loathing—leaning toward or away from something—don’t try to stop it from leaning. As we’ve seen, trying to make a eaning mind stop leaning is just another form of leaning. (“I really want not to have a leaning mind.”) Just be aware when your mind is leaning, and realize what leaning of mind actually is. With practice and attention to this moment, your mind will, of its own accord, lean less.

Steven Hagen, “Buddhism, Plain and Simple”