Are we maybe just using patriarchal masculinity as a dumping ground for our most competitive and maladapted behaviors as human beings and actually what we think of as masculinity is just a lot of unnecessary competitiveness and profound discomfort with the human condition? What if masculinity could actually be a bunch of good stuff and fun stuff, and the set of behaviors we think of as archetypically masculine in America are really responses to insecure attachment and lack of intimacy and security?

You’re Wrong About, “Alpha Males”